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15 February 2008 @ 06:05 pm
Happy Valentine's Day!! ♥♥  
Happy Valentine's Day!! ♥♥

It's a day late, but I figure that better late than never! ^__^ Last night, I was pretty sick, so I went to bed early and slept through the night. Tonight, I'm heading off to a restaurant in Shinjuku called "Soupya" to celebrate with a few (also single) friends, one of my favorite holidays of the year! ^__^

Whether you love Valentine's day or hate it or think that it's a complete farce, I hope that your day was great! ^o^ I personally really love Valentine's day, but then again I love anything that could possibly be romantic in any way. *such a sucker for romance* How about you? How do you feel about Valentine's day? I'm single and I have been on Vday for years, but I still love it just as much as before-- I guess that it doesn't really strike me as having any kind of pressure attached, which I've heard before. It's just a great excuse to have fun. ^^

The tradition in Japan is for women to make chocolates for their loved one ("honmei-choco"), for their friends ("tomo-choco"), and coworkers ("giri-choco") of which the receiving boys (if there are any) are supposed to reciprocate a month later on white day. I don't really care for the japanese celebrations, so I'd rather just go with the American way and give valentines and candy! ^O^ In the case of this year, I made fudge which is chilling in the fridge and I had better go pack up now! ^o^
 
 
 
Raynermundist on February 15th, 2008 09:35 pm (UTC)
You know me, I'm not big on 'Emotional Blackmail Day' (a phrase originated by a friend). I'm with those who don't like the idea of an expectation being placed by society on that specific day. If I do nothing, I'm an ass...if I do something, is it really that special? I prefer to HOPE that when I meet the right woman that I will be inspired to do things on a regular (but not expected) basis to show her how much I care. I would be capable of doing something on Feb 14th, but I'd rather it not seem more important than a day I choose myself. But that's me.

As you do enjoy the day I will say 'Happy Valentine's Day' to you (honestly...not sarcastically) and say I'm glad to hear that you did enjoy the day. =)
Hi-chan (火ちゃん)hinoai on February 15th, 2008 11:53 pm (UTC)
LOL I knew you'd write about that! Yeah, I believe in showing romance and caring all of the time too. ^_^ I guess the difference is that I don't mind a societal pressure to do something special for my loved one on Vday, because I see it as something that with the right person, I would want to do. If that makes sense.. ^^
Raynermundist on February 16th, 2008 12:07 am (UTC)
Perfect sense. I'm very certain that if I actually had a woman who I wanted to spend the day with, then I would be much more positive towards the day.

It's tough to be frustrated with a day that only asks you take some time with your special someone when you're WITH someone. When you're by yourself it's much easier to be bitter. At least I KNOW I'm bitter though. I honestly can't remember the last time I was with someone on valentines day.

Well, actually I can but their expectations were way up there as far as what was supposed to happen. A "little" something did not fit the bill. Guess that should have been a sign of things to come...hehe. AND I know it's a factor in my current mindset. Until I meet a woman that shows me the little things are enough...probably not much of a mindset change.
Hi-chan (火ちゃん)hinoai on February 16th, 2008 12:19 am (UTC)
I'm sure that eventually, you'll find the right person. There are a lot of great girls out there, but it's so hard to find them! I don't know where they're hiding! (I've looked! :x)

I think I've only ever been with someone once on Vday. It was great, and we had dinner, but I think really I enjoyed it about as much as any other Vday where I've spent time with my friends. I guess I'm just one of those people who doesn't get bitter about being alone.. Strange to think about how much I've changed since way back when (you remember those times!). So odd, I wonder how that came around..
Raynermundist on February 16th, 2008 12:38 am (UTC)
I don't know if it's age or what. Maybe I'm more used to working on "me", so it's not as interesting as an "us".

I'd say from where you were then you're much more focused on "me" than an "us". I don't think that's a bad thing either. I don't know if there can be an "us" until a person has done the work to where they are happy with "me". You know that was my biggest gripe about you back then. You seemed more out to define yourself through others than yourself. I don't see that as being the case now. I guess I see you as enjoying your time with you and anyone who wants to be with you has to be ready to go along for the ride for now until you slow down (which, knowing your energy may never happen...heh).

As far as how it came around...I have a theory. I do believe you finding strength in yourself played the largest role though.

And the older of my younger sisters got proposed to yesterday. =/ At this rate my oldest nephew will be married before I am. =P

At least that's one thing I'm glad I know about myself though. That I'm not happy being single (which is magnified being away from everyone). If I didn't know that I'd be worried about making stupid choices.
Hi-chan (火ちゃん)hinoai on February 16th, 2008 01:52 am (UTC)
Yeah, I've really focused a lot more on "me" in the last few years. I feel like I'm a lot closer to knowing who I really am as opposed to, like you said, trying to define myself through other people. I really am a lot happier this way, though in a way I suppose that that contributes to my single-ness. I'm happy being alone now, so it disposes me to be super-picky about people I want to date. They have to fulfill a certain criteria or I won't even consider them, and of course most of the people that do are already taken or too busy to date, neither of which works for me. ^^;; LOL But I'll find someone eventually who loves me as much as I love them. ^^ (I can't wait!)

I would love to hear your theory about how it came around for me (though maybe email is better than public lj). I wonder if it matches with mine.. and my younger sister is already married and two kids, so you're not the only one losing the marriage "race", so to speak! XD Luckily my mother has never pestered me to get married, and I am glad for that. I figure that it will come when it does. I definitely do want to be married and have a family one day to travel the world with! ^^

I find it interesting, because it seems like a lot of self-aware people (at least those on the same level as you) are either single by choice (no interest), or single because they are arrogant. You're neither, so I really wonder what the hangup is. Are you getting too picky, like me? ^^; I know how that feels, that's for sure!
Raynermundist on February 16th, 2008 03:37 am (UTC)
Yeah, if you want my theory email. Minimize drama, ya know?

Well, I think some people might argue with the "not arrogant" part. Heh. 'Course that's just how people get confused IMO due to me being so flexible on many issues (willing to hear people out) and then fairly narrow minded on others (they think I'm judgmental). I'm a bit of an anomaly in that sense. Actually I think everyone is, I just don't try to hide it if I can and I try hard to be aware of it.

Some folks, even the ones who have just gotten to know me, say I'm too picky. Yet, at the same time someone who knows me about the best of anyone says I can't meet a decent woman because I don't know what I'm looking for. I've said it again and again. I have preferences for stuff (brunette, just around 5' or 6', etc.) but those are just things that catch my eye, not necessities. The only "necessity" I have is being accepted for who I am, but not everyone can deal with a self-reflective, philosophical comic geek who can openly discuss his ideas on faith and politics. =P

That, and I just can't date to date. My best relationships have been with women I knew for a while before dating (friends first). I just think if someone knows you to a decent degree before you ask them on a date then if they say "yes" you don't have to worry as much about them questioning/changing you. I know I'll change over time, but I won't do it on demand.

Oh, and remember your sister is closer to you in age. The older of my younger sisters is 11 years younger than I am. Hell, she's closer in age to our nephew than she is to me.

I really don't think I'm picky. I would like someone who will tolerate my geeky-ness though, and share at least one of my more geeky interests to a degree.
jimmy_thesigerjimmy_thesiger on February 16th, 2008 09:34 am (UTC)
The picture's lovely ♥

Happy belated Valentine's Day!

How about you? How do you feel about Valentine's day?

I actualy like it, though I've been single forever. I love seeing flowers everywhere and knowing that there's chocolate and there are special V-day dinners and things...I guess it's psychological--somehow it just makes me feel brighter. Like the day is good because there're more flowers and chocolates going around than usual, I guess. And my sis and I sometimes get a rose for each other, and I really look forward to that part, because ordinarily, we wouldn't know what the reaction might be from our family or each other ("WHY a flower?" and so on), and we don't go out of our way to do that on ordinary days, but now there's some kind of excuse to do it. It's something to look forward to, I guess because my sister's protected me a lot, it's good to be able to get her something and know she will probably like it. Haha...yeah, that's Valentine's Day.

And it feels doubly chocolatey and ice-creamey and all kinds of good things. :)
Hi-chan (火ちゃん)hinoai on February 17th, 2008 01:53 pm (UTC)
Me too~~~ ^____^ It's glad to know that I'm not alone in my love of being single and Valentine's day ^___^
Amiya: Jolin Tsai #3xamiyax on February 16th, 2008 08:20 pm (UTC)
Beautiful artwork ^^
Hi-chan (火ちゃん)hinoai on February 17th, 2008 01:54 pm (UTC)
Thank you! ^__^
Chiakichiaki777 on February 17th, 2008 09:45 am (UTC)
Being trans is the best... I'm male this month, female next. XD *bricked*
Hi-chan (火ちゃん)hinoai on February 17th, 2008 01:52 pm (UTC)
Yeah, but you can go into either bathroom, which is a pretty awesome perk, isn't it! =D