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02 March 2004 @ 12:35 pm
the monday night of doom  
I called the cops on my roommate last night. I'd said that I would if she showed up past Sunday, when she was supposed to be out of the apartment permanently. And well, I don't make idle threats.

She wasn't supposed to be here after Sunday. That was the deal. I didn't want her here even that long (a week from that altercation where she screamed at me) but I agreed on the condition that she would definitely be gone, and therefore I would continue to stay here. I was asked specifically to stay here instead of her, and that was my condition. Life with Brenda is hell and it is not my wish to continue that any longer, especially when I have been paying rent constantly for the past few months and she has not.

So, I had the most wonderful weekend at Athy and Nav's. I can't even begin to explain how relaxed that made me feel. It was so nice... so soo nice, exactly what the doctor ordered. I spent Saturday morning before class with Elvy at the Matsuri festival, which was the start of a great weekend, and then right after class went off to Athy and Nav's. We watched Battle Royale, escorted their mother home from the hospital (she is doing remarkably well!), joked around and otherwise hung out. Relaxing... so soo relaxing. On Sunday I went with Athy to see Dirty Dancing: Havana Nights. It was _good_! Much to my surprise.. I wasn't sure what I was expecting, but I love dance numbers and the movie didn't disappoint. It's worthy of being a sequel/prequel to the amazing Dirty Dancing. Patrick Swayze is even in it... a fact which I found extremely amusing. Anyways... my perfect weekend was ruined the next morning, when lo and behold, the evil Brenda was still here.

I thought, WTF??!! Can she not get it through her head? O_o When she left with Curtis, I locked her out... but Mando let her in last night around 1:00. I think I nearly lost it.. I was SOOOOO pissed! I made a long cuss-word infused rant in my journal which never got posted and completely freaked on the people that I was talking to. I did this all in the privacy of my room, because seriously, I haven't been that mad in a LONG time. She wasn't welcome here, and it baffled me as to why she would keep coming back. Even worse.. that Mando let her in. I think she was delusional. Scratch that, is still delusional.

It took me the better part of an hour to calm down and get up the nerve to take care of this thing once and for all. I couldn't keep relying on Ron to tell her that she has to leave, and you know that Mando's not going to do it. So..... it was VERY difficult, but I knocked on her room door and asked to speak with her. First, Mando told me that she was sleeping, which I knew very wel was bull. He goes back in and this time comes back saying that she refuses to talk to me. Well... alright then, I warned her before and I stated it plainly that if she didn't come out I would call the cops.

So I dialed 911. For the first time in my life. THAT got her attention. Halfway through my conversation with the operator, after explaining to her that I had a roommate that refused to leave the apartment or even come out so that I could tell her to leave, Brenda finally came out. PISSED. Yep, it was hissyfit screaming match from her all over again, and what did she do? Unplugged the phone. I plugged it in a few moments later when she refused to listen to me, and immediately 911 called back. I continued my conversation while the operator said that there was already officers en route. What did Brenda do this time? Unplugged the phone, the answering machine, and when I tried to go plug it back in, she took the cradle. This is when Ron started getting involved, since she was yelling things at all of us now. He argued with her while I managed to get the phone plugged back in and she stormed out. I talked to 911 again while lots of banging came from Brenda's room.

This went on for a few minutes, me talking to the operator and pacing the apartment, while Ron and Mando stood there in the living room not saying a whole lot. I sent Ron down to let the officers in the gate, while I was still on the phone, and this is when Brenda came out finally with a bag and got in my face. She was threatening me, making weird noises and fluttering her fingers at me, going "oooh, aren't you scared? You should be," etc... -_- Ugh. She patted my face, at which point I told her to stop touching me. This was all while I was still on the line. She finally left, apparently hoping to beat the cops, but they stopped her on the stairs. One talked to me, one talked to her, and Mando stood by in the living room, and Ron paced outside listening to what she said.

So the cops straightened it out. She is not allowed to come back, except once with an officer to collect her things. That's all. Ron is pretty upset because she apparently told the cops some pretty mean spirited things while they were talking to her. I only related the events calmly, because I know better than to mess with the law. The truth is best so I just stuck to what had happened tonight and said that there had been problems in the past, but nothing that I would need the cops' assistance for.

I'm proud to say that I never once raised my voice above a civil speaking tone. No matter how many times I was yelled at by Brenda, I told her calmly that she had to leave because she wasn't paying rent anymore and because she was not welcome, and that she could not come back. That was the extent of my conversation with her. I'm proud of myself.

So.. she's gone and there can be no mistake about it. Last night was a long night, and I didn't get to bed until after 4 am. While there is some tension involving Mando now, on the whole life is suddenly a whole lot better. I'll take one night of decisive hell when it means that things are this much better afterwards.

Oh, I was also told that because of her tirade while I was on the phone with the 911 operator, I have enough evidence to get a restraining order against her. If she tries to get back in again without a cop strictly for the purposes of moving, I will call again and get that restraining order. =) I feel.. better.
Current Mood: contemplative
Current Music: Poe - A Rose is a Rose
Elvy: YAY!soundsoft_elvy on March 2nd, 2004 11:45 am (UTC)
I'm SO PROUD OF YOU! I can't believe that! No wonder it was impossible to get a hold of you online! *huggles her*

YAY Hi-chan! *is so proud of her, she's all teary-eyed* Talk about taking control of the situation! You go girl!
Rollergal: Yuyakawaii_gurl on March 2nd, 2004 11:54 am (UTC)
Way to go HI-CHAN! o^__^o I've gotta say that I have MAD respect for you. I don't know if I would have been able to keep my cool in a situation like that..but you did, and now you even have the police on your side. *thumbs up*
Botan: angry but talking calmlyreikais_botan on March 2nd, 2004 12:02 pm (UTC)
Yep, you just have to put your foot down. Inactivity will only let people walk all over you. Too bad it had to come to that.
piperz on March 2nd, 2004 12:11 pm (UTC)
Well, it sucks that your March opened up in such a brutal way. Even though you got into that big confrontation, at least she's gone as a result of it.

No one deserves to be walked all over like that. She was a real bitch, so I gather, and she deserves to be thrown out on her lazy ass. Maybe if she would have not been such a bitch, paid her shit, and otherwise not given so many people every single reason in the world to hate her guts.... things might have been different.


Doubtful, though.

I'm glad everything turned out alright in the end, and I'm proud that you managed to restrain yourself in all of that. It's hard to keep calm in situations that you just want to KILL someone over. Heh. At least the entire tirade on the phone gives you evidence enough to keep her stupid ass away in the future.

Hope you get a better night's sleep tonight. (hugs)

Yay, Hi-Chan!
Mura: taikoubou2mura_arkaine on March 2nd, 2004 12:15 pm (UTC)
Yikes. Talk about a hell of a night. Well, that sure was something. I admire your strength and persistence in doing what you did. Nicely done! ^_^
Miwa Satoshimiwasatoshi on March 2nd, 2004 12:26 pm (UTC)
That took serious strength and determination. Be proud - you stood up to that challenge and faced it down.
Lauren: Hugsblackjedii on March 2nd, 2004 12:40 pm (UTC)
*points up to her icon* ^.^
sirxavier85 on March 2nd, 2004 01:18 pm (UTC)
Wow. Sounds like she had it coming. If you want a more unconvential method for the solution of your problems, I am connected. That's right. I'm stealing cable.
DCdani_starwind on March 2nd, 2004 01:27 pm (UTC)
Good job hun! Bwahahaha, I called the cops on someone a week ago. For putting a cigarette out near my eye at school! I have yet to hear from them so far, but he's been excluded. He'll most probably get a police caution which'll go on his record for 5 years! >=D
slyabneyslyabney on March 2nd, 2004 01:46 pm (UTC)
*tackle glomps* Good for you! She was pretty stupid yelling at you when you were on the phone with the operator and unplugging it. But things can only go up from here!
Rose Thorne: dreamrosethorne on March 2nd, 2004 02:55 pm (UTC)
Way to go! Personally, I'd get the restraining order now rather than waiting to show you really mean business, but I tend to really strike blows hard. ^^

I'm glad you're okay and that she's gone.
rosasda_rosas on March 2nd, 2004 03:46 pm (UTC)
Hi, you don't know me, but I was pretty disturbed by this incident and implied history with your (fortunately ex)roommate. Forgive the advice-giving, but purely my opinions: 1) If you can get a restraining order NOW, do it. Don't wait for a next time. This is for your legal (if not actual) protection and can insure stiffer consequences for her when(if) she comes back. 2) Maybe you want to get a cellphone? I had a friend in a domestic violence situation once: the emergency cellphone she had helped save her from getting murdered by her domestic partner. He had yanked out the phone lines in the apartment, she locked herself in a room (either bathroom or bedroom, don't know which) and called "911" on the cell phone. 3) Get some information about stalkers, or being stalked. I know there are a few websites out there, but I don't remember them offhand. She seems capable of exhibiting stalking behavior and this is just a bit of knowledge to protect yourself. 4) Ultra paranoia here, but: is she known to make friends of a questionable nature, male or female, or known to associate with drug addicts, for example? Be very, very careful for a while about strangers and unusual situations (setups) that might end up isolating you. If she really becomes fixated on being out to get you, and she's following a restraining order to the letter at least literally, she may have the "support" of individuals unknown to you who may act on her inclinations. (Note this #4 is ultra paranoia and possibly not in the picture, but it has happened.)

Don't want to scare you, but let's be real: you were living with a sociopath and you don't know how far she'll go and when(if) she'll calm down. She's not rational and you need to remember irrational people don't usual follow any rules, except the ones they make up in their own minds. (FYI, have dealt with a few sociopaths in my history; better safe than sorry, okay?) Sorry for the lecture, just want you to *remain* safe. Best wishes and good luck.
Jen-Neko-Hanjennekohan on March 2nd, 2004 06:07 pm (UTC)
Way to go! If I was ever in that kind of situation I don't think I would've been able to keep my cool like you did. And that is awesome that if she comes back by herself that you can get a restraining order. I hope she doesn't come back, but if she does then definately do that!
long gone with her red shoes on: headstrong -- partinggiftsredshoeson on March 2nd, 2004 07:55 pm (UTC)
Wow. You go girl! I agree with the person a couple of comments above; take care of this immediately, don't wait for the situation to get out of hand. Be strong and be careful. Keep us posted.

alkfhalsidjals: yatta! ~ by me ~ steal and diesan on March 2nd, 2004 10:32 pm (UTC)
If it were ME, I'd be screaming my head off at her. o_O But you kept your cool the whole time! SO PROUD OF YOU!! ^__^
Naveed: ...hitokiri_naveed on March 2nd, 2004 10:32 pm (UTC)
Woah, shit hit the fan huh?

Hey, I talked to the teacher who was interested in getting a kitten under two conditions? XD One, it can't be all black she didn't go into detail XD and two she was wondering if she could pick it up in July after her trip home. She doesn't wanna stress it out by flying it home. Anyway let me know if those things are doable and I'll give her your email address I'll give you hers then ya'll can figure it out. XD
Freytsuki_fru on March 2nd, 2004 10:42 pm (UTC)
'Yay! *uberglomphuggleysnugglysnugs* Good good job! *_* you da girl! *claps and offers cookies and snugs more*
alie_n on March 3rd, 2004 09:18 am (UTC)
Good job handling the situation with such amazing control over your emotions! Umm... I'd suggest you get the restraining order now--that she seems to be a bit umm... sociopathic?... much?.