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23 September 2003 @ 10:02 am
sexual harrassment..  
I just want to commend Tokyopop for publishing Confidential Confessions. I read the second volume this morning, and it had me in tears several times. It's not because I'm so emotional right now, but it's because it's so true. I've never been sexually harrassed, maybe because I come across as one of those people who will stick up for herself no matter what. Or maybe it's because I *would* slap a lawsuit on someone that did it to me. Maybe I'm just really lucky. I am really lucky in those regards. But I'm glad that things like this are getting published, and with manga entering into the mainstream popular culture right now, this kind of thing could really help. It makes me sick to my stomach to see girls getting abused on tv, on the news, in stories.. because that kind of thing is wrong. It is the girl (or guy, yes, but I'm going to use girl for simplicity right now, just understand that it can run both ways), anyways, it is the girl's right to decide what is sexual harrassment and what is not. It is up to her to decide what feels wrong. So it does not matter what the reasons -- a girl has the right to decide for herself!! Nowhere, anywhere, is it the right of someone to force their unwanted touches or unwanted words on another living person. We are all people, we all deserve to decide what we feel comfortable with and what we don't. Just a warning. If I ever see anyone getting abused in a way that they don't like it, you'd better believe that I will step in. I would rather get embarassed than see another person have to take harrassment like that.

It's one thing to joke about it or to write it into a story. It's quite another to happen in real life. End of story.
Current Mood: determined
Reichierereichiere on September 23rd, 2003 10:24 am (UTC)
I know what u mean. It was really moving, and ur just like OMG....

I love that series. ^_^
Just a Little Wrecklessloneprism on September 23rd, 2003 10:31 am (UTC)
I finished reading the first volume almost a week ago (never got around to it) and I wanna read the second volume whenever I can. I dunno, the first story was good, and I think I understand some of the thoughts put into it... But I really enjoyed the second story. Maybe it was the fact that the ending was a bit happy that I found uplifting. ^_^;;; I thought it was really nice.
piperz on September 23rd, 2003 10:48 am (UTC)
I personally haven't read it, but as someone who HAS been sexually harrassed in more ways than one, I totally agree with you.

But for some people, it's hard to press the issue if other's don't agree with you on what IS or IS NOT sexual harrassment. Most people say that sexual harrassment is only things like physical contact, or someone you work with asking you to sleep with them, and things like that.

Alot of people don't even care, even if they see it going on around them. I used to be one of them... u.u Can safely say that changed drastically...

But in reading what you say about this Confidential Confessions... maybe people will start seeing things in different lights, and LISTEN when someone says they aren't comfortable with a situation.... and would consider it sexual harrassment. Alot of people never say a word, because THEY aren't for sure if it's considered sexual harrassment... alot of people just know they're uncomfortable, but aren't sure what to classify it as.

(shrugs.) I'll have to look for C.C. and see if I can get both volumes thus far.

Thanks for posting.
Hi-chan (火ちゃん)hinoai on September 23rd, 2003 11:06 am (UTC)
*huggles* C.C. is a collection of short stories about the more touchy subjects in life. This is the link to Tokyopop's page about it. Volume two, is just one story, about a girl named Chika who is getting sexually harrassed by her tennis coach. It was touching from the beginning, but what really got me was how real it was. Instead of some stories, and many after school specials that deal with it by having the girl come out and just sue the teacher.. this story went through her whole emotions, and her wondering if it was *really* sexual harrassment and if it was really okay. It was a hard road and she gave up several times. In the end, though, even though the guy was not sued, it made me cry with how much better the ending truly was. I think if more people read this, they'll feel better about standing up for themselves and realize that they don't have to be the ones that are embarrassed about it. It should be the people who are committing the crime.

*nods* There are a lot of people that are scared about admitting that something is making them uncomfortable, and there are various reasons for it. Or they aren't sure if they're really right about this. I can just hope that somehow, something small like this makes a difference in how things are viewed. Sure, it's only a manga, and how far can a manga reach..? But it's something. It's at least one small step and the least that I can do is recommend that everyone reads it, girls and guys alike.
athenazandrite on September 23rd, 2003 11:28 am (UTC)
I should read it definitely.

I doubt it would have made my situation any easier for me. But it would be interesting to see it from the Teacher perspective. I wonder if it would bother me to read. Sometimes weird things hit me.

Thoughts in my head were mostly: 'Oh my god.. is that legal?' and 'I do NOT want to fail my class, maybe I can avoid him until it's over and never see him again.' I suppose I hadled it the best I could have given my personality. I knew really, that it wasn't right. Anything that makes you burst into tears after it happens is not right. But I wasn't comfortable talking to people about it either. I talked to ONE girl in the class who stayed with me at all times I was in his presence after that. (I haven't seen her since but I'll always remember her and be thankful.) And I talked to online friends who helped me deal with it emotionally. I talked to Nav of course who promised she wouldn't ever make me go see him alone. But I suppose there really wasn't a happy ending other than me not having seen him since the class ended. And I suppose me getting an easy A. Of course, I also knew the material so I probably would have gotten an A anyway. The poor other girl (who I always thought was far more attractive than I) struggled the whole way and he graded her much much harder than me. I actually went up with her and we showed him our papers and made him change her grade because she'd answered the same as I had. He didn't seem pleased but it was obvious he was grading biased. I think I'm the only thing that got her a passing grade, studying with her and helping her when he did that stuff. And she worked ten times harder than I did. (Ironically her name was Tiffany XD)
Hi-chan (火ちゃん)hinoai on September 23rd, 2003 12:21 pm (UTC)
*huggles Athy* It does explore the pervy teacher's perspective to a bit, and it's interesting to see how he manipulates everybody, not just the victims, into thinking that he's not doing anything wrong. You as the reader know that he is manipulating him, but it paints a picture for how those kind of people suck everyone into their web of lies and make the victim think that she's done something wrong. The girl also goes through things like thinking that she should just ignore it, she only has so much time left, she wants to be picked for the intermurals.. various things stop her, even peer pressure. *huggles* I wish that I had known you back then, because I would have honestly done something about it. Even if it embarrassed you. ^^;; then again, maybe you wouldn't have wanted to know me, since if nothing else worked, I would have decked the teacher. ^^;; I can't stand people that take advantage of others and manipulate them like that. *huggles*
athenazandrite on September 23rd, 2003 04:20 pm (UTC)
Heh I'm mostly over it now ^.~ Thanks.

BTW Mi~ki. http://pub39.ezboard.com/fdabestmessageboardfrm59.showMessage?topicID=8.topic

::goes back to nap::
Hi-chan (火ちゃん)hinoai on September 23rd, 2003 05:57 pm (UTC)
=^___^= I replied and posted in my journal as well. Wow... O_O